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191432 No.7067  
I don't understand relationships
and maybe I never will
>> No.7070  
me neither :(
>> No.7072  
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>no time for love
>> No.7073  
Maybe something nice will happen
Why would anything nice happen
>> No.7074  
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>when she rejects your lunch invitation
>> No.7075  
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Keep it up, you can't know how to shrug off failure and you can't know how to succeed unless you try!
>> No.7076  
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I think giving up is important
>> No.7077  
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only sometimes
girls are girls, boys are boys
>> No.7078  
it would be nice if girls could be forward too
also it would be nice if I could read minds
>> No.7087  
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Today went well
>> No.7098  
The last couple didn't
>> No.7103  
Maybe something will happen tomorrow
>> No.7106  
Even lacking in love, we're never alone.
We've got each other and our comfy place we call /swt/.
I can't say that I love any of you, but I can say we're in this together.
>> No.7110  
Who needs love when you have howler
>> No.7115  
I felt like that for a long time, but recently my views have changed.
I always tried to deny attachment, and therefore suffering, and it led me to meet and
associate with people that I felt I could dispose of at any time. I know that it sounds
cliche as fuck, but you have to love yourself first, then good people will come naturally.
>> No.7116  
I always felt (and still feel) that struggle and suffering is normal and that my goal was to overcome it
and that I should have a relationship because it wouldn't be fair to the other person
but recently my loneliness overtook me and I have been trying
only failures so far but better progress in the last 3 months than all before that combined
>> No.7117  
That's great! I hope that the steps get larger and larger over time :)
Sometimes it takes a little light
>> No.7118  
>>7117 oops.
Sometimes it takes a little light ahead to keep your head up
I still struggle day to day to recognize that I deserve love as much as anyone else, and
it seems that the more that I accept that and allow myself to be disappointed or hopeful,
the more positive and productive I become in every aspect of my life. I hadn't realized how
hard it was - exhausting really - to constantly work and care for and protect myself when I
didn't love myself enough to even think I deserved it!
>> No.7119  
>recognize that I deserve love as much as anyone else
I still can't accept this
I feel like everyone is morally equal but that doesn't imply I deserve love
More like my desire to start a family prompts me to do something
I have had less relationship experience than the average high schooler but I already have my bachelors
I am being forced into normality
maybe that's good
>> No.7120  
It's funny you mention family as a driving force - one big realization that I always knew but never really felt
was that the only people that I should consider romantically are ones that I would accept into my family.
That led me down more introspective roads, and I realized that my big problems with marriage and relationships
might stem from being a bastard child and feeling like I don't belong in my own family.
>> No.7121  
>I am being forced into normality
How do you mean?
>> No.7122  
I was born out of wedlock and both my mother and father left me to my grandparents
Still never met my mother

I am so afraid of being alone
And my continued loneliness is depressing
Before the last 6 or so months I had nothing more than acquaintances and never had a relationship
Never anyone that I could go out and do stuff with
For so long it was a horrible feeling that I got the courage to do something about
>> No.7123  
I think that when taken together as cause and effect, everything that you described is a normal reaction. The nature of loneliness, depression, alienation, and other negative factors is that the experience of any one of them brings up the others and reinforces the feeling. Also, in a biological sense, a lot of this comes from hardwired tendencies that serve to propagate the species. Wanting to be in a pack and start a family is normal, and moving to make those things happen is also a normal reaction to that pain. It’s not crazy. It is a signal that your natural psychological needs are not being met and I mean that in the most compassionate way possible.
>> No.7125  
Ok I'm no longer in pain over recent rejection
Healing has occurred
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